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Stop Dieting - Part 1

Posted on 29 May, 2015 at 3:05

What does this mean?

Stop dieting, stop failing, stop putting on weight. Say no to dieting.

Its time to take back control of your beautiful body.

Dieting does not work, in fact you end up heavier after you return to your way of eating. Yet why is it that over half of the adult population are on a diet at any one time?

As food is more readily available and fast food in particular is easy on your pocket and your time, the population get heavier and heavier. As the pounds start to go on a little bit at a time, we go in search of a diet.

Diets are designed to guide you to weight loss, so why is it that we end up coming off a diet and put weight back on?

We are coming at this all wrong. The first step is not to find a diet and off you go. The first step is actually to identify what you are eating and how do you eat?

Do you follow restrictive plans then as your emotions change binge? Or is it that you never feel full and overeat? Perhaps you are so busy that you do not have the time to prepare home cooked meals so you eat out all the time?

Recognising how you eat and when and what you eat is what deserves your attention. Dieting does not allow for you to fully respond to your lifestyle and emotional ups and downs.

Take dieting out of the equation and focus on becoming an expert on yourself and your eating habits. If you can make just one change to begin with, make it one that is important to you. Choose one that is easy to follow, what might that be?

What conversation do you have with yourself and your body after you have put on some weight? Is it critical and judgemental, raining negative punishing thoughts down on your beautiful body? Do you ever find yourself wishing you could just cut off your stomach or have the fat sucked out of your legs? As you reject and turn on your body, you feel bad about yourself. This is a major reason listed by dieters for a catalyst for binging.

When a toddler is learning to walk do you scream and shout and say come on you lazy child get walking or you won’t get a cuddle for the rest of the day? No you do not, the child would be traumatized. Instead you kneel down in front of them and put your arms out smiling and saying encouraging words to come towards you. This works.

In the same way, if you want to get healthier and get your body feeling and looking better than ever, negative judgemental comments encourage you to eventually give up with the word failure looming in front of you. The dieting journey is based on negativity and judgement. When you have a slip up while dieting, you judge this from a personal perspective and believe you are a failure. When in fact, diets are designed to fail. 95% of diets fail.

Move away from dieting, focus on getting to know yourself and how you use food. As you discover your way of eating, be gentle loving and kind.


Stop Dieting - Part 2

Posted on 28 May, 2015 at 11:45

How to avoid emotional eating


Emotional eating is eating in response to an emotion. Eating wisdom is eating when you are hungry and stopping when you are satisfied.



Many people eat emotionally. In order to avoid or control emotional eating, you must first become aware of how you use food. How many times in a day would you eat when you are not hungry? How many times in a week would you be fully present when eating and notice the whole experience of eating? Are you aware of the flavour, the texture, how do you feel when you eat?


The best way to avoid or control emotional eating is to become aware. Become your own observer. Know how and when and why you eat.


If you had a small child who experienced some sort of trauma, your doctor might suggest that you to monitor your child’s behaviour and look out for any changes in their eating patterns. After one week of doing this, you would be very familiar with how their were responding emotionally to food.


Most of us are unaware of our emotional responses to food. Many of these emotional rituals developed when we were children.


In my house growing up, if you got hurt, you got lots of loving attention and nurturing which was great but you also got a treat of some sort. I unconsciously did the same with my own children and still associate something out of the ordinary happening or a tragic event with feeding and food. If someone that I know well dies, I will get cooking and bring over food to their house. When I experienced close loss in my own life, I ate my way through the whole experience.


Each of us that emotionally eat uses food as a response to a particular emotion. One example that people don’t necessarily equate to emotionally eating is tiredness.


By getting to know your emotions and where you are on the emotional scale, you will become familiar with your emotional eating patterns. Once you know what they are, you are halfway there to changing your response to these particular emotions.


Find a new response to these feelings. Replace your eating behaviours with other things. In order to have a feeling, you must have a thought first. One way forward is to do things that interrupt the thoughts. We have many suggestions listed as a response to emotional eating in 101 days and ways. Do things that you like. Once you become aware of you emotional eating ways, you are back in control.