|Posted on 6 February, 2016 at 11:45|
IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU
How many times in your childhood or adolescence did you hear, or do you still hear the phrase ‘It’s not about you’
In actual fact It’s is all about you. How you are feeling. How you are coping. What you are about.
Our natural state of being is to be in joy. But it’s not always that easy to access this state.
Are you living your life purpose? What does this feel like? This has been described as ‘When your present moments begin to feel perfect’
When you live on purpose, your relationship with time changes dramatically. You’ll no longer be looking for happiness somewhere in the future. You’ll stop saying to yourself, “Once X happens then I’ll be where I want to be. Then I’ll be happy.” Instead you will look to your present and say, “This is exactly where I want to be right now… and nowhere else. Nothing could be more perfect than this precise moment.”
The emotion that accompanies this state is joy. Joy results from total acceptance of your present moment. Whenever you project your thoughts away from the present moment and seek happiness in another time or place, you leave joy behind. When issues arise in your life, problems with relationships, friendships, family, worries, money or health, low mood, depression, anxiety, trauma, bereavement, bullying, workplace, school, social isolation. The list goes on. When issues arise, they block joy from your present moment. It is a constant uphill battle to try to reconnect with joy. You might even forget what this looks like.
By assessing your current emotional state and comparing it to the state of joy, you can get a sense of your distance from this state. The more powerless you feel, the further you are from joy.
There are many tools and techniques that reduce down the worries and blocks standing in your way. Counselling does help you reconnect with your natural joyful path. It is all about you.
|Posted on 27 May, 2015 at 6:10|
Happiness and Joy– Where we belong
As a counselling psychotherapist it saddens me to come across so many people living a life where they are just existing.
People from all walks of life, with no common life pattern. The common factor is that they are not happy. Not in joy, the place where we all belong. Why does this sadden me? Because I know that for the majority of people, with a little bit of help, with a little bit of support, they can find their way through whatever is separating them from feeling happy. There are so many unique and diverse stories as to the cause of discontent. But the feelings experienced are very similar.
We have an excellent educational system in this country that produces amazing talented people. But there is a gaping hole. Our emotional education. We know how to study, to work, to achieve goals in our careers. But we have never had guidance, educational guidance on how to achieve emotional stability. How to actively seek, find and retain happiness.
Why is Counselling so effective? Because we share our tools and techniques that help people negotiate any emotional imbalance. By Implementing different strategies change occurs. It's that simple.
If you break a leg do you stay at home and hope it heals correctly or do you bring yourself to the hospital and get it sorted.
All the talk about minding your mental health is really good.
I would like to add to that. Learn how to respond to your emotions. Go after happiness. I believe that I deserve to be happy and living a happy life. That's my priority for myself. I actively do everything I can to achieve my most important goal, to be in joy.