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The benefits of Cranio-Sacral Therapy

Posted on 5 May, 2016 at 9:20

Rosemary Reynolds of the Holistic Treatment Centre works with adults and children.


Rosemary shares an experience that led her to expand her training to include children. We are so thankfal that she did.


" I'm working as a holistic therapist at a health/wellness festival offering cranio-sacral therapy, holistic message and Reiki healing. A young woman approaches me with a little boy, who also happens to be her son and who is approximately three years of age and asks me to do cranio-sacral therapy on him.


I explain to her that I have not yet completed paediatrics training and so am not qualified to treat her son. "please" she begs me. I can see the woman is distressed and desperate for help.  Her young son is pulling out of her and very hyperactive. I make a decision!


The young boy hides between his mother's legs, burying his head in her skirt and won't come near me or the treatment table. I suggest to the mother that maybe she should lie down and the boy lie besde her. The boy seems happy with this suggestion and they both lie down on the treatment table, the boy agitated but happy to be near his mother.


After asking his permission, I take both his ankles in my hands and tune into his cranio-sacral rhythm and check for symmentry/asymmetry, rate and amplitude. I work on regulating the cranial rhythm to bring it back into balance. The boy sighs deeply and goes into a very deep stillpoint, with his eyes closed and his head flopped to one side, breathing deeply. I am taken by surprise by his quick response!


I move up his body and place on hand under his sacrum and the other hand gently across the pelvic area and wait. His sacrum feels like a little bird in the palm of my hand, fluttering and jumping around, unable to be still. After a while, the jerking movements slow down and all become quiet.

The boy's breathing is deep and regular and he is very relaxed.  He opens his eyes slowly and gazes at me.  then smiling, he reaches up and gently strokes my face.


It wa an incredible experience for all three of us and proved yet again how thankful we are to Dr. John Upledger for developing such a powerful therapeutic process.


Thank you Dr. John.


That was when I knew I must complete my training and be available to help children.  Later I see the boy sitting at a table by himself, quietly and at ease, eating his sandwich and drinking a glass of milk.'


Rosemary Reynolds

Holistic Therapist  086154 3917

Counselling Centre Maynooth


IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU

Posted on 6 February, 2016 at 11:45

IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU

How many times in your childhood or adolescence did you hear, or do you still hear the phrase ‘It’s not about you’

In actual fact It’s is all about you. How you are feeling. How you are coping. What you are about.

Our natural state of being is to be in joy. But it’s not always that easy to access this state.

Are you living your life purpose? What does this feel like? This has been described as ‘When your present moments begin to feel perfect’

When you live on purpose, your relationship with time changes dramatically. You’ll no longer be looking for happiness somewhere in the future. You’ll stop saying to yourself, “Once X happens then I’ll be where I want to be. Then I’ll be happy.” Instead you will look to your present and say, “This is exactly where I want to be right now… and nowhere else. Nothing could be more perfect than this precise moment.”

The emotion that accompanies this state is joy. Joy results from total acceptance of your present moment. Whenever you project your thoughts away from the present moment and seek happiness in another time or place, you leave joy behind. When issues arise in your life, problems with relationships, friendships, family, worries, money or health, low mood, depression, anxiety, trauma, bereavement, bullying, workplace, school, social isolation. The list goes on. When issues arise, they block joy from your present moment. It is a constant uphill battle to try to reconnect with joy. You might even forget what this looks like.

By assessing your current emotional state and comparing it to the state of joy, you can get a sense of your distance from this state. The more powerless you feel, the further you are from joy.

There are many tools and techniques that reduce down the worries and blocks standing in your way. Counselling does help you reconnect with your natural joyful path. It is all about you.

 

What You Think You Feel

Posted on 5 November, 2015 at 10:05

Negative Thinking

What you think you feel.

Are your thoughts mostly negative?

If they are, you are caught in the cycle of negative thinking.

In order to start to tackle your negative thinking patterns, the first step involves identifying your style of negative thoughts.

There are four common types of negative thinking:

1.

The All or Nothing thoughts.

Everything has to be exactly right, I must get all of this done or I have failed.

2.

Focusing on all that is bad or negative about you.

Dismissing or discounting any positives not allowing any achievements or partial success to be rated or valued. Your filter is blocking all positive thoughts.

3.

Personal attacks.

It's all my fault. I cannot do anything right. I am a horrible person. I don't deserve to feel good or do well. I never do anything right. Everything bad always happens to me. If people really knew the real me they would hate me. I am so ugly, stupid, that I deserve for everyone to hate me.

4.

Assuming the worst case scenario.

If something bad is going to happen it will happen to me. I always mess everything up.

Everything I do fails.

If you recognize yourself in any of this. You are operating out of your negative filter.

Negative thoughts produce negative painful feelings. You cannot have a feeling without a thought feeding it.

By working on ways to interrupt and challenge the negative thought patterns that occupy your mind. You start to create more positive feelings.

The steps towards thinking from a positive mindset is not as far away from you as you think.

Once you have taken the first step and become aware of your thought patterns, the next step is to ask yourself do I want to keep experiencing life from this negative stance and feel so bad. If the answer is no, you are ready to start the journey of changing negative thinking.

If you are ready to introduce any of the following thoughts?

' I want to be able to see myself in a more positive light. I want to notice the positive steps I am taking. I want to be surrounded by positive situations and positive people. I want to feel good about me'

You have already begun.

That Hopeless Feeling

Posted on 7 October, 2015 at 17:00

That hopeless feeling.

 

I call it the hopeless place.

Have you ever experienced feeling absolutely hopeless. Where everything just feels so awful. It's a very scary place to be. For in this place you are disconnected from all of the good feelings. You are disconnected from people. Disconnected from hope. It's hard to see a way out or through this place. Sometimes it's money worries that lead you into this darkness. Or relationship problems, with your partner, your parent, your friends, or it may be work related? Or health, or none of the above, but you are in the hopeless place!

It's dark, it's scary, and this feeling this hopeless feeling physically hurts. It creates a pain in your stomach, it creates a heaviness in your chest. It's hard to see a way out of here. It's feels impossible. It is such a lonely place. So overwhelming. Eating away, causing erosion. Blocking positive feeling, casting a shadow over positivity.

When you are in the hopeless place, no one will join you. People are afraid of this place. That's why it feels so lonely.

They are right to do everything in their power to stay out of this place. They don't belong there. But neither do you.

This is not a place for you to stay.

If you think of the many many emotions that we can experience. If you can imagine a scale rating the emotions. Positive emotions at the top. Joy being number one. Hopelessness at the very bottom. Joy seems so far away from that hopeless place. A long way to go. But what just above hopelessness? A slight improvement? It may still be a negative feeling? But not as dark. In order to move in the right direction it's important to remember the following:-

 

1. You don't belong in the hopeless place

 

2. No matter what you did or others did to you, this is not your place of residence.

 

3. If you move towards help, towards wanting to be in a better place. Wanting more than this. Then people will help. There is always support for wanting to feel better. That is going in the right direction.

 

4. If you need professional help. Make that call sooner rather than later. You deserve to feel better. Here at the Counselling Centre Maynooth, we believe that the hopeless place is only a temporary stop not a destination. It's time to move from that place.

 

5. Physical welfare. Focus on your physical needs. Have healthy meals. Eat regular meals.Take some form of exercise. A 20 minute walk releases serotonin. A chemical produced in the body believed to help with mood balance. Get lots of rest. Sleep hygiene has a huge impact on your emotional wellbeing.

 

6. Seek out good company. Someone who lifts your mood.

 

7. External environment. Burn Aromatherapy candles or sticks. Lavender is very good for calming and relaxing the mood.

 

8. Music. Listen to music that moves you and your mood.

 

9.Paint or dance or read a book. What activities do you enjoy?

 

10 listen to inspiring speakers or personal development gurus on you tube or read a self help book.

Maureen Gaffney' 'The Flourishing'

 

Don't delay take a positive step today.

 

www.counsellingcentremaynooth.com

0892037524

Anger Management - How Counselling Helps

Posted on 13 September, 2015 at 15:10

Anger Management – How Counselling Helps?

 

Here at The Counselling Centre Maynooth, we are very aware of the negative impact anger can have on your life when it gets out of control.

 

Anger is a normal healthy human feeling. Like all feelings it’s how you respond to that feeling that can cause problems. When you express anger and it reaches a point where you rage at others, anger has taken over and you are not fully in control. This can lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships affecting the quality of your life and your physical health.

In order to change your responses to the feelings aroused in anger, you must first have an understanding of how you are being perceived in your anger. If you notice uncontrolled outbursts of anger or rage then it is time to seek counselling and learn the many practical tools and techniques developed to give you back control.

Anger Management teaches you how to effectively manage your anger.

People who experience a lot of anger often have physical symptoms including breathing difficulties, high blood pressure and rapid heartbeat. This is due to adrenalin rushing through the bloodstream as a constant high level of adrenalin is released in the body. This increases your stress and anxiety levels. As you learn new coping skills you stop the pattern of angry outbursts.

Learn how to de-escalate your anger and change your reactions to stressful situations. Anger Management is one of the better steps you can take to greatly improve your life and your relationships.

 

 

Fast Track to Change

Posted on 16 August, 2015 at 9:15

Hypnotherapist - Psychotherapist – Energy Healer at the Counselling Centre Maynooth

 

Hypnotherapy

Derville Daly - Dip. Clinical Hypnotherapy, R.C Hypnotherapy.

BSc (Hons.) Counselling & Psychotherapy. (MIACP)

 

Derville is a qualified hypnotherapist and a counselling psychotherapist. Derville uses hypnotherapy for many issues including smoking cessation, weight loss, anxiety and sports motivation, fear of flying, public speaking, in addition to self-improvement issues. Derville also uses parts therapy and past life regression to help get to the route case and promote change.

 

LIFE CHANGE THERAPY

For the last number of years Derville has been involved in developing and launching a new model of therapy called Life Change Therapy (LCT).

Life Change Therapy is the amalgamation of hypnotherapy, energy healing and psychotherapy. By using hypnotic tools and techniques and combining in a unique way with energy healing and therapeutic interventions, great change occurs.

Life Change Therapy is a revolutionary new therapeutic model that targets and changes unwanted feelings and behaviours quickly and easily.

LCT removes the blocks in your way and reframes your thinking, addressing even the most serious of issues.

What most impressed Derville about LCT was the speed of change for the client. It did not take months and months but rather weeks. Derville and her Co-Founder Kathleen Ciavarella (USA/Mind Therapy Hypnosis) took this model on the road and ran workshops in both Ireland and the USA. People attending reported huge changes in their lives.

 

Some of the programmes that Derville and Kathleen have developed so far are listed below. They are continuing to add to this list as they discover new areas where Life Change Therapy helps to promote change.

Conquering Addiction - Journey through Cancer - Emotional Eating - Pain Management - Finding your True North - Loving Your Body - Stress Management - Anger Management – Reducing Trauma – Fears and Phobias. Healing Health.

 

Derville is the Director of The Counselling Centre Maynooth, located in Maynooth Co. Kildare.

The Counselling Centre is dedicated to assisting those experiencing any health, personal, family or communication issues. This specialized team offer the most effective dynamic therapeutic programme for both individuals and groups tailored to suit everyone.

www.counsellingcentremaynooth.com

Phone Today 089 203 7524 [01] 9010196

 

 

Depression and the fear of relapse

Posted on 3 July, 2015 at 6:40

If you suffer from depression then you are very aware of the signs and symptoms of an episode. You may notice a heaviness in different parts of your body. You may be experiencing a sleepiness or lethargy. Certain types of thoughts may be rattling around your head on bad days, or certain repetitive negative images may be present leaving you feeling down.

You know your own symptoms as each depression sufferer’s symptoms are unique to the individual.

As you emerge from a particular bout or episode of depression, you will typically start to notice more good days, or good periods than bad and heavy feelings and thoughts less frequent. But even with this lifting there may be, at the back of your mind, a fear about another episode of indefinite duration. Even though some time may have passed since you felt depressed. It can be unnerving to notice some of the old negative feelings or thoughts returning.

Just remember, it is natural to feel fear or anxiety about the thought of becoming depressed again.

However, it’s also important to remember that most people have periods when they feel low, and that this is normal. We all have cycles of feeling good and positive followed by a dip. The level and length of the high and low varies from person to person. It is very difficult to sustain a high or very positive episode indefinitely.

The following is a self-assessment determining your emotional wellbeing

There are a few things to be mindful of when self-assessing your emotional wellbeing.

Rate each of the following 1 - 10 - 1 being low and 10 feeling amazing.

Rate how positive you are feeling?

What is your energy level?

How hopeful do you feel?

Rate your stress levels?

Are you able to problem solve easily?

Rate your creative part ?

Rate your level of physical activity?

How healthy is your diet?

Have you a daily routine?

If you are mostly above 5, You are in a good place and able to respond to any negative thoughts or feeling.

If you are below 5,

Ask yourself if there is any obvious reason why you are feeling low? If there is no clear reason, accept that you are feeling low today and support yourself through this time with gentleness and kindness. Treat yourself as you would a close friend. Give yourself permission to take it easy and mind your physical health. Rest, eat well and take moderate exercise. Try to avoid alcohol. If possible be around positive people.

If the symptoms continue, you may decide to look for outside help: you might seek counselling or consult your GP to explore other options.

Remember depressed people are often very hard on themselves, and often withdraw from friends and family, so try and ensure you stay connected to others, whether through work, social activities or hobbies and pastimes that you enjoy.

There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Although the path to that recovery will probably not be steady and straightforward all the time, lasting recovery is achievable. And part of that process is to re-learn what it is to feel low, anxious, or sad, without feeling the additional weight of hopelessness that most people say characterises depression.

 

Common Reasons why Couples Seek Counselling

Posted on 2 June, 2015 at 19:20


 

 

1. Communication has become negative.

 

If communication has become negative between a couple, or has broken down completely, it is difficult to break the cycle of miscommunication and misinterpretation without help. Couples repeat the cycle of negative communication over and over.

Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. This can also include the tone used in the conversation. Sometimes it’s not always what you say, but how you say it.

Negative communication includes any communication that leads to hurt feelings, emotional or physical abuse, and nonverbal communication.

2. When one or both partners consider having an affair or one partner has had an affair.

There is no magic formula for recovering from an affair. But if both individuals are committed to the therapy process and are being honest, the relationship can be salvaged. It does take commitment and a willingness to forgive and move forward.

 

3. When the couple seems to be just occupying the same space.

When couples become more like roommates than a romantic couple, this may indicate a need for counselling. If there is a lack of communication, conversation and intimacy or any other elements that the couple feel are important, if they feel they just “co-exist,” this may be an indication that a skilled relationship therapist can help guide the couple back. The needs of each person are not the same. It is important to establish what needs are very high on your partner’s list and communicate what is very important to you. When your needs are being met in your relationship, the bond is strengthened.

 

4. When the partners do not know how to resolve their differences.

When a couple begins to experience discord and they are aware of the discord, knowing is only half the battle. Many times I have heard couples say, “We know what’s wrong, but we just don’t know how to fix it.” This is a perfect time to get a third party involved. If a couple is stuck, a skilled relationship therapist is able to help them explore the issues in a neutral setting, and share many tried and tested tools and techniques that have moved other couples forward.

 

5. When one partner begins to act out on negative feelings.

If needs are not been met and communication is negative, Behaviours might begin to reflect how the person is feeling. Couples can become spiteful and vindictive. They may resort to using money or children to get at their partner. Counselling tools and techniques can help the couple sort out negative feelings and find better ways to express them.

 

6. When the only resolution appears to be separation.

When a couple disagrees or argues, a short break from each is sometimes helpful. However, if this break turns into an overnight stay away from home or eventually leads to a temporary separation, this may indicate a need for counselling. Spending time away from home does not usually resolve the situation. Instead, it reinforces the thought that time away is helpful, often leading to more absences. When the absent partner returns, the problem is still there, but often avoided because time has passed.

 

7. When a couple is staying together for the sake of the children. If a couple feels it is wise to stay together for the sake of the children, it may help to involve an objective third party. Often couples believe that they are doing the right thing when staying together. But this may be detrimental to the children.

Children are generally very intuitive and intelligent. No matter how couples may think they are able to fake their happiness, most children are able to tell.

If the couple is able through counselling, to resolve issue and move toward a positive, healthy relationship, this may be the best decision for all involved

Not all relationships are salvageable. In the process of couples counselling, some couples may discover it is healthier for them to part. But, for those relationships that can be salvaged, for the couples willing to commit to the process, couples and relationship counselling will give you invaluable tools and techniques to clearly listen and be heard.

Communication is key.

 

Stop Dieting - Part 1

Posted on 29 May, 2015 at 3:05

What does this mean?

Stop dieting, stop failing, stop putting on weight. Say no to dieting.

Its time to take back control of your beautiful body.

Dieting does not work, in fact you end up heavier after you return to your way of eating. Yet why is it that over half of the adult population are on a diet at any one time?

As food is more readily available and fast food in particular is easy on your pocket and your time, the population get heavier and heavier. As the pounds start to go on a little bit at a time, we go in search of a diet.

Diets are designed to guide you to weight loss, so why is it that we end up coming off a diet and put weight back on?

We are coming at this all wrong. The first step is not to find a diet and off you go. The first step is actually to identify what you are eating and how do you eat?

Do you follow restrictive plans then as your emotions change binge? Or is it that you never feel full and overeat? Perhaps you are so busy that you do not have the time to prepare home cooked meals so you eat out all the time?

Recognising how you eat and when and what you eat is what deserves your attention. Dieting does not allow for you to fully respond to your lifestyle and emotional ups and downs.

Take dieting out of the equation and focus on becoming an expert on yourself and your eating habits. If you can make just one change to begin with, make it one that is important to you. Choose one that is easy to follow, what might that be?

What conversation do you have with yourself and your body after you have put on some weight? Is it critical and judgemental, raining negative punishing thoughts down on your beautiful body? Do you ever find yourself wishing you could just cut off your stomach or have the fat sucked out of your legs? As you reject and turn on your body, you feel bad about yourself. This is a major reason listed by dieters for a catalyst for binging.

When a toddler is learning to walk do you scream and shout and say come on you lazy child get walking or you won’t get a cuddle for the rest of the day? No you do not, the child would be traumatized. Instead you kneel down in front of them and put your arms out smiling and saying encouraging words to come towards you. This works.

In the same way, if you want to get healthier and get your body feeling and looking better than ever, negative judgemental comments encourage you to eventually give up with the word failure looming in front of you. The dieting journey is based on negativity and judgement. When you have a slip up while dieting, you judge this from a personal perspective and believe you are a failure. When in fact, diets are designed to fail. 95% of diets fail.

Move away from dieting, focus on getting to know yourself and how you use food. As you discover your way of eating, be gentle loving and kind.

 

The Lifecycle of a diet Overview

Posted on 29 May, 2015 at 2:55

The lifecycle of a diet: -

Why is it that diets fail? Research tells us that you have a 95% of failing on a diet. That means you only have a 5% chance of succeeding. Yet the dieting industry is a multi billion dollar industry. As long as there is so much money to be made from this industry new diets will continue to come on stream and 95% of you will go back again and again trying out something new.

As our population gets heavier and unhealthier, we desperately need to change our approach to dieting.

Health wise we must reduce body size, which does involve changing our eating habits and exercising. This is not a new concept, most people are aware of this fact.

In order to change your lifestyle, you must first understand what happens to you as you attempt another diet. There is a pattern. If you can understand what is happening and what you are going through, it makes it easier to overcome the different stages when dieting.

Once you know where you are, you in the dieting lifecycle, it is easier to use specific tools and techniques or put in place particular supports to guide you through the journey of dieting.

Stage One – Euphoria I am back on a diet and in control of my eating.

When you decide to diet, be it for health reasons, or because you are unhappy with your shape or size, or maybe it is connected in with your self esteem and sense of self worth. When you commence a diet, motivation levels are invariably high. This motivation feeds off your desires and expectations. When you feel good and confident about achieving something, your chances of success are high.

Stage Two – Grief and loss - what am I doing? I miss living and being happy, as this is so horrible living without my beloved favourite foods.

Every high is followed by a low. Once the initial motivational period passes, you hit the hardest part of your diet. It is during this stage that most people fall off their diet. It is important first to recognise that the way you are feeling is normal and to be expected. Allow yourself space and time to feel sad and grieve the loss of your way of eating and living. Grief needs to be expressed. Grief needs nurturing understanding and support. As you recognise yourself in the grieving process, plan some treats that are non food related to send the message to yourself that you deserve to be minded and loved particularly at this time. Try taking one step at a time. Free up as much time as you can for yourself and surround yourself with loving supportive people if at all possible. Listen to soothing music or supportive CDs to help nurture and guide you through.

Stage Three – Denial I don’t need to be on a diet, I would rather be happy and overweight than slim and miserable.

If you find this time too difficult get professional help. If you had a physical injury you would seek medical assistance. This emotional injury deserves as much assistance as you can get. You physical body responds directly to what is ingested. Your physical health is of paramount importance. You deserve all the help that is out there to get you through.

Remind yourself of your original goals. Re evaluate your dietary plan. Is the diet too restrictive? There are many diets out there. Find one the suits your taste buds and lifestyle. Enlist the support of others who are on the same journey. Sometimes talking to someone who has been at the stage that you are at will be enough to help you overcome any doubts you may have.

Stage Four – Slip Ups – When you have a binge or eat something that is not on your diet.

A slip up is a danger point in any diet. Rather than seeing a slip up for what it is – a temporary blip – dieters use this as the catalyst to abandon the diet completely. When you have a slip up shower yourself with love and understanding. Recognise that it is part of dieting and develop as many self-nurturing healing responses to get you back on track.

Stage Five – Acceptance -  I actually do want to be healthier and feel better. I can manage this. I can learn tools and techniques to deal with my emotional eating. My taste buds are adapting. This is the way forward. I remember why I am doing this.

Many people report losing weight to be the easy part, I personally never it found it easy to lose weight. Once you have the weight off, it is a whole new challenge to keep it off. When on a diet your total focus is losing weight. Imagine arriving at the point. Are you prepared for this? Have you planned how you intend to continue on your healthy eating journey to avoid weight gain?

This stage involves a lot of emotional re adjusting. Arm yourself with as much knowledge about your eating responses and practice new ways of soothing your emotions. Has your attitude changed in relation to food and enjoying your meals? Or was the diet a temporary thing one which you will abandon once you get to your goal weight? Know yourself first.


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